Anyone involved in a
particular activity wishes to excel in
order to achieve his
objectives. The one who loves wealth specializes
in accumulating it
and further aspires to learn the tricks
of his trade.
Satellite television channels specialize in attracting
viewers by airing a
variety of shows using the latest technology.
They also train
their presenters in attracting viewers for current
as well as
forthcoming programs. The same can be said of
newspapers, radio
and television. The same applies to those who
market various
products, whether halaal or haraam. All these
people endeavor to
specialize in techniques that are needed in
order for them to
excel in their respective fields.
Winning
hearts is also an art with its own ways and means.
Suppose
you enter a gathering of forty men, and as you pass
by
each of them, shaking everyone’s hand, the first shakes your
hand
indifferently and says very coldly, “Welcome”; the second is
busy
speaking to the next person, and as you greet him by surprise,
he
responds to you very impersonally and without even
looking
at you, then continues with his conversation with the
next
person; the third person is speaking on the phone, so he
simply
stretches out his hand without saying a word or showing
any
respect. However, when you get to the fourth person, he
sees
you and immediately stands up to greet you. When your
eyes
meet his, he smiles and demonstrates that he is glad to
meet
you. He shakes your hand warmly and welcomes you, even
though
you don’t know each other at all! You then greet the rest
of
the people and take a seat. Do you doubt that your heart will
have
the most respect for the fourth person? No doubt it will,
even
though you do not know his name, nor his status or profession.
Despite
that, he successfully captures your heart, not with
wealth,
status, or lineage, but merely by his interpersonal skills.
Hence, hearts are
not won by force, wealth, beauty or status.
They are won by much
less of a sacrifice, yet few are able to win
them.
The
one who provides his children and wife with wealth,
food
and drink only does not win their hearts by doing so,
but
only their stomachs! The one who showers his family with
wealth
while he mistreats them does not win their hearts; rather,
he
only wins their pockets.
For this reason, do
not be surprised if you see a young man
who faces a problem
and therefore complains to his friend,
teacher, or the Imam
of a mosque, but not to his own father. This
would be because the
father has failed to win over his heart and
break down barriers.
On the other hand, it is the teacher or the
friend, who has
managed to win his heart.
Another
important point: Have you ever noticed that when
certain
people visit a gathering packed with people and look left
and
right for somewhere to sit, there always seems to be no
shortage
of people calling them over to sit next to them. Why?
Or
at a buffet, where everyone serves themselves food and
then
looks for somewhere to sit, have you noted that such people,
as
soon as they have filled their plates, are subject to large
numbers
of people calling them over in order to eat with them?
Whereas,
others may fill their plates and have nobody taking any
interest
whatsoever, so they have a very lonely meal?
Why are people so
eager to sit with one type but not the
other? Is it not the
case that certain people have the ability to attract
hearts wherever they
may be, as if they are magnets? How
extraordinary!
How
did they manage to win over people? By using clever
techniques
to capture people’s hearts.
Resolution...
Our
ability to capture people’s hearts and win their love
brings
us great happiness in life.
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