With women

 Allah has blessed the man with a strong body, He has also blessed the woman with strong emotions.

How often do we see brave men and even leaders crumbling front of the emotional prowess of a woman?

To deal skillfully with women one should discover the key to her emotions. The Prophet e would advise people to treat their womenfolk with kindness and have regard for their emotions, so that they may live with them in happiness. He advised fathers to be kind to their daughters.

“Whoever looks after two girls until they have grown up, he and I will be on the Day of Resurrection like

this”,  aid the Prophet e as he joined his fingers together.

He also advised sons to look after their mothers. He was asked, “Who should I honor the most?” The Prophet e replied, “Your mother, then your mother, then your mother and then your father.” (al-Bukhari and Muslim)

He similarly advised husbands to look after their wives, and went on to criticize those who anger or hurt their wives. Read the words the Prophet e said on his last pilgrimage in front of a hundred thousand pilgrims, amongst them white, black, old, young, rich and poor. He called out to them all and said, “You must treat your womenfolk well! You must treat your womenfolk well!” (Muslim and al-Tirmidhi)

One day, a group of women came to the wives of the Prophet e complaining about their husbands. When the Prophet e heard of this, he stood amongst the people and said, ‘A group of women have approached the wives of Muhammad complaining about their husbands. These husbands are not the best of your people.’ (Abu Dawud, Sahih) He also said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family.” (al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah, Sahih)

                                                                              A point to note...

A woman can be patient with her husband’s poverty, unattractiveness and busy schedule, but she cannot be patient with his rude behavior.