The Prophet e would take this into consideration, and
hence, the nature of
his speech with young men would be different
to that with the
elderly, or with women and children.
Jabir
bin ‘Abdullah was a great Companion. His father was
killed
at Uhud, and he had left behind Jabir’s nine sisters with no
one
to take care of them. He had also left behind a huge debt
to
be paid off, all on the shoulders of this youth who was still
very
young. Because of this, Jabir was always anxious and thinking
about
his sisters and his debt, as the creditors were demanding
Jabir
journeyed with the Prophet e on the Dhat ar-Riqa’ expedition.
Due to his extreme
poverty, he was riding a very weak
camel that could
hardly walk. Jabir did not have enough money
to buy another
camel. As a result, everyone preceded him and he
was
the last in the caravan. The Prophet e was also at the end
of the army, so he
met Jabir as his camel walked slowly along.The
Prophet
e said, “What is wrong with you, O Jabir?”
He said, “This camel
is slowing me down.”
The Prophet e said, “Kneel it down.” Jabir knelt it down, as
the Prophet e knelt his camel down, too.
The
Prophet e then said, “Give me your whip, or break a
branch
off a tree.” Jabir gave him his whip. The Prophet e took
the whip and struck
the camel with it gently, and the camel got
up energetically.
Jabir got hold of the camel and jumped on its
back
and went alongside the Prophet e happily. The camel had
become
very lively. The Prophet e turned to Jabir to converse
with
him. What was the topic that the Prophet e chose to discuss
with him? Jabir was
a young man, and young men are normally
concerned about
marriage and their livelihood.
The Prophet e said, “O Jabir, did you get married?”
He
said, “Yes, I did.”
The
Prophet e said, “To a virgin or a previously married
woman?”
He said, “Previously
married.”
The Prophet e was surprised at why a young man like him,
who
had married for the first time, had done so to a previously
married
woman. He said to Jabir in kindness, “Why didn’t you
marry
a virgin so that you could fondle one other?”
Jabir said, “O
Messenger of Allah, my father was martyred on
the day of Uhud and
left nine (orphan) daughters who are my
nine sisters. I thus
disliked to have another young girl of their
age, and instead
married someone older than them so she could
be like their
mother.”
The Prophet e realised that the man he was speaking to was
one
who had sacrificed his own pleasures for his sisters. Thus,
the Prophet e decided to tell an appropriate joke for a youth
of his age: He e said, “Perhaps, when we
head for Madinah and
stop
over at Sarar (5 km from Madinah), your wife will hear of
our
arrival and lay out the pillows.” Meaning, even if you married
someone
previously married, she will always remain your bride.
She would rejoice
upon your return, lay down the carpet and
arrange on it
pillows.
Jabir thought of his
poverty and that of his sisters. He said,
“Pillows?! By Allah,
O Messenger of Allah, we do not have pillows!”
The Prophet e said, “InshaAllah, you will soon have pillows.”
As the two continued on, the Prophet e wished
to gift some
money
to Jabir, so he turned to him and said, “O Jabir!”
“At
your service, O Messenger of Allah!” he replied.
The
Prophet e said, “Will you sell me your camel?” Jabir
thought that the
camel was his capital, and even though previously
extremely weak, it
had now become very strong! However,
he thought it rude
to reject the Prophet’s offer. Thus he said,
“Make an offer, O
Messenger of Allah! How much will you pay?”
The
Prophet e said, “A Dirham.”
“A
Dirham! You are cheating me, O Messenger of Allah”, replied
Jabir.
The Prophet e said, “Two Dirhams.”
“No.
You are still cheating me, O Messenger of Allah...” replied
Jabir.
They continued
raising the price until it amounted to forty
Dirhams, or an ounce
of gold.
Jabir said, “Fine,
but on the condition that I continue to ride
it until we reach
Madinah.”
“Yes,”
agreed the Prophet e.
When
they reached Madinah, Jabir went to his house and
offloaded the camel.Then he went to pray with the
Prophet e
and tied his camel next to the mosque. When the
Prophet e
came
out of the mosque, Jabir said to him, “This is your camel,
O Messenger of Allah!” The Prophet e said,
“O Bilal, give forty
Dihrams
to Jabir and more.”
Bilal gave Jabir
forty plus Dirhams. Jabir took the money in
his hand and went
away thinking about his situation and what he
could do with the
money. Should he buy a camel, or should he
buy furniture for
his house?
The Prophet e suddenly turned to Bilal and said, “O Bilal,
take
the camel and give it to Jabir.” Bilal took it and went to see
Jabir.
When he arrived, Jabir was surprised and wondered if the
Prophet e had cancelled the sale.
Bilal
said, “Take the camel, O Jabir.”
Jabir
said, “Why? What’s the news?”
Bilal
said, “Allah’s Messenger has ordered me to give you the
camel
and the money.”
Jabir
returned to the Prophet e and asked him what had
happened.
The Prophet e replied, “Do you think I haggled with
you just to take
your camel?” Meaning, I wasn’t asking you to
lower the price
because I wanted to buy your camel. I only did
what I did to assist
you with some money! How wonderful these
manners were! He
chose the appropriate topic to discuss with
the young man, and
when he decided to help him, he did so with
great kindness and
compassion.
A point of view...
Talk
about what others like to hear, not what you like to
relate.
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