Following
on from the previous chapter, is the subject of the
way
to talk to people and what to talk about. When someone
converses
with another person, he should talk about subjects
that
are suitable. The topic he may choose to discuss with a
youth
would be quite different to that which he would choose
to
discuss with the elderly. The type of conversation he has with
a
scholar would not be the same as that with a layman. Similarly,
the
words used with one’s wife would not be the same as those
used
with his sister.
This is not to say
that the topic must be completely different
for each person,
such that a story one may relate to his sister
should never be
related to his wife, or what is said to a young
can never be
repeated to the elderly. Not at all. What is being
referred to here is
the way in which the story is related differs.
By
way of example, imagine if one were to sit with some
elderly
guests, over eighty years old, who had come to visit one’s
grandfather,
would it be appropriate for him to laugh and joke
while
discussing what he did with his friends at the beach, and
relate
how well his friend played football? No doubt this would
be
inappropriate. Similarly, when speaking to small children, it
would
not be suitable to relate various stories concerning how
husbands
should treat their wives.
It is agreed upon,
therefore, that from the ways of attracting
others, is to choose
the topics they like to discuss. For instance,
if there is a father
who has an intelligent son, it would be appropriate
to ask about him, as
the father would most definitely
be proud of him and
love to discuss the subject. Likewise, there
may be a person who
has just opened up a shop and be making a
handsome profit, and
thus it would be appropriate to ask about
his shop and
customers as this is what would please him. He
would therefore love
to sit and discuss this time and time again.
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