10 Jun 2013

Be kind at the first meeting 2



The Prophet (pbuh) would also capture people’s hearts the first
time he met them. After the conquest of Makkah and when Islam
had become dominant, the Prophet (pbuh) started to receive envoys
from various tribes. One of the envoys the Prophet (pbuh) received
was from ‘Abd al-Qays. When they arrived, before they could
even dismount from their rides, the Prophet (pbuh) said to them,
“Welcome, O people! May you never face disgrace or sorrow,
so have glad tidings!”

As they dismounted from their camels, they raced to the
Prophet (pbuh) to greet him. They said, “O Messenger of Allah, between
our cities there lies a dwelling of a group of pagans from

Mudhar, due to which we cannot come to you except in the
sacred months, since this is when Arabs do not fight, so guide
us to the best thing we can do, which if we were to do it, would
cause us to enter paradise, and which we would instruct others
to do also.

The Prophet (pbuh) said, “I shall order you to do four things and
forbid you from four. I order you to have faith in Allah. Do you
know what it means to have faith in Allah?”
They replied, “Allah and His Messenger know best.”

The Prophet (pbuh) said, “It means to testify that there is no one
worthy of worship except Allah, to establish the prayers, to give
in charity, and to give a fifth of the war booty in charity.”
I also forbid you from four; from drinking from ad-Dubba, an-
Naqir, (pitched water skins), az-Zuruf, al-Muzaffat and al-Hantam
(names of utensils used for the preparation of alcoholic drinks).’
(al-Bukhari)

On another occasion, the Prophet (pbuh) was travelling with a
group of his Companions at night. They travelled for a long time
until the last part of the night fell upon them, and they decided
to stop over and sleep. They were overcome by deep sleep until
sunrise. The first one to awaken was Abu Bakr, and then ‘Umar.
Abu Bakr sat next to the Prophet (pbuh) and began to say “Allahu
Akbar” aloud until the Prophet (pbuh) also woke up and prayed Fajr
with his Companions. When he had not finished the prayer, he
realised that one of the Companions had not joined them.

The Prophet (pbuh) said, ‘What prevented you from praying with
us?’
He replied, “I had a wet-dream and didn’t find water to bathe
with.” The Prophet (pbuh) ordered him to perform Tayammum with
dust. The Companion then prayed and thereafter they continued
on their journey, and none of them had any water. On the way
they became extremely thirsty and were unable to find any well
or water.
‘Imran bin Husayn said, “As we were travelling, we found
a woman on a camel with two leather sacks (filled with water).
We said to her: ‘Where can we find water?’ She said: ‘There is
no water here.’ We said: ‘How far away is the water from your
house?’ She said: ‘One whole day.’ We said: ‘Go to the Messenger
of Allah (pbuh).’ She said: ‘What is a Messenger of Allah?!’

“We took her with us to Allah’s Messenger in the hope that
she would tell us the location of the water. The Prophet (pbuh) asked
her about the water and she responded with what she had responded
to us earlier, and further complained that she had orphans
to look after. The Prophet (pbuh) took hold of her water con-
tainer, mentioned Allah’s name on it, and then wiped over it and
began to pour the water from her container into our utensils. All
forty of us drank from it until our thirst was quenched. We filled
our utensils with water and left hers, which now carried more
water than they did before.

“The Prophet (pbuh) then said, ‘Bring what you have (i.e., of food).’
We collected pieces of bread and dates for her. The Prophet (pbuh)
said: ‘Take this to your family, and know that we have not decreased
your water at all; it is only that Allah has quenched our
thirst.’
“The woman then mounted her camel happily after receiving
food and went home. When she returned, she said: ‘I met a magician,
or perhaps a prophet as they claim...’
“Her family were amazed at her story with the Prophet (pbuh),
and it wasn’t long before they all accepted Islam.’” (al-Bukhari
and Muslim)

This woman was amazed by the Prophet’s treatment and
generosity in her very first meeting with him.
One day, a man came to the Prophet (pbuh) asking him for material
aid. The Prophet (pbuh) gave him a portion of his cattle. The man
returned to his people and said, “Accept Islam, for Muhammad
gives like a man who doesn’t fear poverty!”

Anas said, “The man would come to the Prophet (pbuh) solely
for worldly reasons, but afterwards his religion became more
precious to him than the whole world and all that exists therein.”
(Muslim)
A suggestion...
The first meeting imprints 70% of the impression that one
has of a person on his mind. Thus, one should treat a person as if
it is the first and last time he will ever meet him.

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