“From the excellence of one’s Islam is to leave that which
does not concern him.”
How beautiful is this expression, especially if you were to
hear it from the righteous and pure mouth of the Messenger of
Allah – may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him! Yes, to leave
that which does not concern him!
How many are those cumbersome people who bother you
by interfering in matters that do not concern them? They bother
you when they see your watch, “How much did you buy this
for?”
You
reply, “This was given to me as a gift”.
Then
they would say, “A gift? From whom?”
You
reply, “From a friend.”
He
would continue, “Your friend from the university? Or
your
locality? Or elsewhere?”
You
reply, “Well, a friend of mine from the university.”
He
keeps pressing, “Okay, but what was the occasion?”
You
respond, “Well, an occasion, from our university days.”
He
then says, “Yes, but what occasion in particular? Graduation?
Or
when you went on a trip? Or something else?”
He would continue to ask you questions about an utterly
worthless matter! I ask you, by Allah, wouldn’t you feel like
shouting at him, saying, “Do not interfere in that which does
not concern you!’ And even worse is if he were to put you in
an awkward situation by asking you an embarrassing question in
public!
Likewise,
if you were to visit a patient and ask him about his
illness,
and he were to reply vaguely, “al-Hamdulillah, nothing major,
just
minor illness”, and such expressions that do not explicitly
answer
the question, do not embarrass him by persisting on
asking
detailed questions, such as, “I am sorry, but what exactly
is
the illness? Please clarify what you said” and so on. Why the
need
to embarrass him?
From the excellence of one’s Islam is to leave that which does
not concern him. I mean, are you really waiting for him to tell
you, “I have hemorrhoids”, or “I have an injury, in an embarrassing
place”, etc? As long as he gave you a vague response, there is
no need to ask him for details. I do not mean that he should not
question the patient about his illness. What I mean is that one
should not ask detailed questions about another’s illness.
Another
example of this is a person who called out to a
student
in front of all the people in a public gathering, and asked
in
a loud voice, “Hey! Did you pass?” He said, “Yes’.
He
asked, “What percentage? What grade?”
If
he truly cared for him, he would have asked him when he
was
alone. There was also no need to go into details by asking
“What
percentage? Why didn’t you revise? Why weren’t you accepted
in
the university?” If he was really ready to help him, then
he
could have taken him to the side and spoken to him about
whatever
he liked. But as for displaying his dirty laundry in public,
then
that certainly was not genuine!
The Prophet said, “From
the excellence of one’s Islam is to
leave that which does not concern him.”
Workshop…
Struggling against yourself to free yourself from interfering
in others’ affairs is exhausting in the beginning, but easy in the
end.
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