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Mu’awiyah was once asked, “How did you manage to be a

governor for twenty years and then a Caliph for twenty years?”

He replied, “I placed a hair strand between myself and the

people. I would hold it from one end and they would hold it from

the other. If they pulled it from their end, I would loosen it from

mine so that the hair strand would not break. If they loosened it

from their end, I would pull on it from mine.”

May Allah have mercy on him, how wise he was!

We can all agree that if both partners of a couple are stubborn,

then they could never live together in happiness. Similarly,

two stubborn people can never be friends for long.

Thereupon, I remembered the words of the Prophet (pbuh) “A

strong person is not the one who throws his adversaries to the

ground. Rather, a strong person is he who contains himself when

angry.” (al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Yes! The hero isn’t the one with a strong body who overpowers

anyone he wrestles with, for if this was the yardstick of

heroism, then surely the animals would have been nobler than

men. Rather, the hero is the intelligent one who knows how to

skilfully deal with diverse situations. The hero is the one who

tactfully deals with his wife, children, manager, and colleagues

without losing them.

A Hadeeth states, “A judge should not give judgement whilst

he is angry.” (Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi who said it is Hasan

Sahih)

The Prophet (pbuh) ordered us to train ourselves on forbearance;

he said, “Patience comes with forbearance.” (ad-Daruqutni,

Hasan)

The meaning of this is that the first time one suppresses his

anger, it may drain his emotions 100%. The second time, it will

decrease to 90%. The third time, it will be 80%, and so on until

forbearance becomes second nature.

An incident related to was about a young man who would

very easily become angry. This young man was once driving his

car on the road at a normal speed, as he was in no hurry. Behind

him was another car whose driver seemed to be in a rush and

was trying to overtake him. Seeing this, the young man slowed

down even more and gestured at the car behind to slow down.

The driver of the car that was following could hold his patience

no longer. He put his foot on the accelerator swerved

close to the one’s car, and dangerously overtook, but nobody

was hurt. The young man became furious, he was the type who

would get angry over much less than this, and put his foot on the

accelerator to catch up with the car that had overtaken him. He

began to shout and gesture at the car so that its driver would

stop, which he did. He then placed his headscarf on the passenger

seat, grabbed a spanner, and got out of the car. He was visibly

fuming as he walked towards the car. Suddenly, he saw three

muscular men jump out of the other car and run towards him.

They had seen him with the spanner in his hand and realised he

wanted to fight. When he saw them running towards him he was

terrified, and when he realised they had noticed the spanner in

his hand, he slowly raised it and said, “I apologise. I just wanted to

let you know that this spanner dropped out of your car!”

One of the men took the spanner and the three men returned

to their car as the young man waved goodbye!

Equation...

Ill temper + Ill temper = Firework