The keys to hearts

Every door has a key. The key to open people’s hearts is

to know their personalities, solve their problems, reconcile between

them, benefit from their good and keep safe from their

evil. One will become an expert in all these skills if he knows

their personalities.

Suppose an argument took place between a father and son

due to which the father ordered the son to leave the house. The

son then tried to return but the father persistently refused. You

then get involved in order to reconcile between the two and remind

the father of the religious texts pertaining to this issue and

warn him about the sin of breaking the ties of kinship. However,

he does not accept your advice, so you decide to use a different

approach. You know that he has a very emotional personality

and therefore go to him and say, “Won’t you have mercy on your

son? He sleeps on the floor without any roof to cover him. You

eat and drink whist he remains hungry and thirsty. Do you not

think of him each time you raise a morsel of food to put into

your mouth? Do you not think about how he has to walk in the

heat of the sun? Do you remember when he was small how you

would hug and kiss him? Do you not think for a second that he

might be living on handouts whilst his father is alive?”

You would find that the father will be moved by these words

and come closer to considering reconciliation.

If his father was miserly, you could say to him, “Be careful

and do not entangle yourself in further problems. Bring your

son back so that he is under your supervision. You never know,

he may steal or harm someone, due to which the court may

order you to pay for the damage. You are, after all, his father, so

be careful!”

You would find that the miser would reconsider due to his

fear of loss of finances!

If you were speaking to the son and he loved wealth, you

could say, “You need your father. Tomorrow, you would want to

get married. Who would pay for the dowry? If your car breaks

down, who will pay to get it fixed? If you fall ill, who will pay your

medical fees? Your brothers are no doubt taking advantage of the

situation as they are receiving their stipends and gifts whilst you

sit here with nothing. Surely, you can change your situation by

saying sorry to him?”

Similarly, if you were called to reconcile between a husband

and wife, you could do the same and open up their hearts towards

each other by using the appropriate skills. Likewise, if you

wanted leave from work and knew that your boss does not give

much consideration to emotional or social factors and his only

concern is work, you might say to him, “I need a break for about

three days in order to regain strength and vigour. I feel that the

enormous workload has resulted in me being temporarily inefficient.

Please allow me to rest my head for three days so I may

return to work invigorated.” If he is someone who has consid-

eration for social factors, you may realise that he gives great

importance to family matters. You could therefore say to him, “I

need a vacation to visit my father and children. I have been feeling

distant from them for a while.”

Perfect these skills and very soon you will hear people saying

about you, “We have not seen anyone as skilful as this person in

convincing others.”

              The result...

  Every man has a key to his heart, and knowing his personality

 assists in identifying the right key to open it.