Enjoy the skills

These skills give us physical pleasure, and I do not mean by this the pleasure of the Hereafter only. Rather, it is that pleasure one actually feels in this world. So enjoy these skills and practice them with the old, young, rich, poor, near or far. Use these skills with them in order to guard yourself from their harm, to earn their love, or to rectify them.

Whoever reads the life of the Prophet  realizes that he would deal with people with these skills and capture their hearts. The Prophet  would not simply pretend to have these skills in front of people and replace his forbearance with anger when being alone with his family. He was never one to be cheerful
with some but sulky with his own family. He was never one to be generous with everyone except his own children and wives. Rather, he always acted naturally. He would worship Allah by hisfine manners just as he would worship Him by offering the Duha or night prayers. He would consider his smile to be a virtue, his

gentleness an act of worship, and his forgiveness and leniency a good deed. The one who considers good manners to be acts of worship will always remain well-mannered, in war and peace, when he is hungry and when he is full, when healthy or ill, and even when happy or sad.
           How many women only hear about the refined manners of their husbands, such as their patience, cheerfulness and generosity, but never witness any of these qualities at home? Such husbands, often when at home, are ill-mannered, impatient, sulky and constantly cursing.
           As for the Prophet , he said, “The best of you is the one who is best to his family. And I am the best of you to my family.” (al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Majah, Sahih) Now read how he would deal with his family: Al-Aswad bin Yazid said, “I asked ‘A’ishah – may Allah be pleased with her – how Allah’s Messenger  would behave in his house. She said: ‘He would be serving his family, and when the time for prayer
would come he would perform ablution and leave to pray.’’
Yes, the best of you is the best to his family, to his parents to his wife, to his servants, and even to his children.

      Opinion...
Instead of cursing the darkness, try to fix the lamp.